Tory Councillor Has Been Suspended

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A Tory councillor has been debarred from his local party after he posted a tweet claiming he’d told a Big Issue seller to f*ck off back to Romania.  Yet, four years ago, Mr. Frost, the member for North Deal and Dover District Council, was suspended from the Conservative party for posting about Jungle bunnies on Facebook.

The run in led to him leaving his post as a part-time maths teacher at a Kent school, although he was subsequently exonerated of any wrongful conduct by a standards committee.  Afterwards he used the term rag heads in a Facebook post after going on a Lynx helicopter.

In March of last year, he was tweeting about a potential alteration in management at the Port of Dover, he penned “Sale to frogs, /sons of camel drivers=bad.  Mutual ownership=good.” He as well tweeted last year that Labour voters lived on a diet of lard and fags.

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In yet another tweet, posted soon after the election, he referred to Nicola Sturgeon, and her supporters as a ginger munchkin, and her hoard of Buckfast drinking, wife beating, professional welfare dependants.

Bob Frost has now been debarred pending further investigation.  It is felt that following the local comments, and comments on Facebook and Twitter, that these remarks are not appropriate.

Cllr Frost yesterday took a firm stand that he was being jocular, pointing out the blemishes in society, stating that it was sarcasm, pointing out what’s wrong with society, and that it was all an old joke.

Cllr Frost was suspended for four months in 2011 over his former remarks on social media, however, the latest case is to be viewed separately, but Cllr Frost should never have been permitted back onto the council in the first place.

There have been a number of cases where people in parliament have been going onto social media and disparaging people, and steps need to be taken to ensure that this does not happen again, because this kind of behaviour should not be endured, otherwise it looks like a minuscule amount of Satan lives in every Member of Parliament.

Our regard for government is waning, because by their own admission they’re unfolding a can of worms, since they’re the architect of their own labours, and rebellion against others is not the way to go about it, that is just complete and utter intimidation.

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The power to fight this sort of thing should be an imprisonable offence.  If it were Joe Blogs down the road running their mouth off like Cllr Frost did, then they would be severely reprimanded for it, or even arrested.

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The trouble is it’s an unfair system, and the people don’t have the right to decide what should happen to Cllr Frost, and eventually it will just get swept under the rug and blanked out.   Nevertheless, it has an effect on everyone, and it doesn’t give the government a sound image when something like this takes place.

We exist in a society that utilizes cyberspace on an everyday basis, however, that doesn’t mean that we have to misuse what is a really amazing thing.  The purpose of it wasn’t meant to separate us from each other, it was intended to bring us together, that’s why it’s called the World Wide Web.

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All the same, people like Cllr Frost have breached this extremely amazing piece of equipment to his advantage, and that’s to berate people for his own entertainment, however, it’s really not amusing at all.  It merely labels people, and what he regards as satire is very lame for jocular funniness, and people are not laughing.

Apprenticeship System Failing

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A study commissioned by the Local Government Association, established that 42% of all apprenticeships created in the last five years went to people ages over 25 years old.  It stated the current policy enabled businesses to train accomplished workers rather than unemployed young people.

The government said the number of young people not in employment, education or training was at its lowest in the decade, however, it has sworn to create a further three million apprenticeships before the close of Parliament in 2020. 

The report, by the Institute for Public Policy Research (IPPR), and the Local Government Association (LGA), established 67% of intermediate skilled apprentices were already hired by their company when they were given their apprenticeships.

The study as well, said demand for apprenticeships, especially amongst young people had soared, with one million people applying for 85,000 vacancies last year.

In 2013-14 under 19s applied for 57% of the advertised apprenticeships, however, only 27% were given to them, whereas over 25s made up 7% of the applications, yet occupied 37% of the vacancies.

The study’s authors said the government needed to tackle substantial regeneration of the apprenticeship system, which they stated was failing to get to grips with stubbornly high levels of youth unemployment.

A high caliber apprenticeship system could be utilized to combat youth unemployment, and push higher productivity, however, the system we presently have is failing to deliver.

It needs to be steered in a direction where it gives our teens a chance, and an advantage in the workplace.  It’s actually a no brainer.   If you give an apprenticeship to a young person who is straight out of school, you don’t have to be a bright spark to learn a trade.  

If one is shown how to do the job, one will finally pick it up, and become really adept at it.  We’re all human beings, and we have the knowledge to do things when demonstrated, and that’s worth more money than money itself, to be part of something, and to feel significant enough that someone wants to show us, and make us part of something important.

It’s not always about the wages that we’re going to get at the end of it, it’s about job gratification, and being in the right job for that person, because if we’re not happy in our working environment, then we don’t work to the best of our ability. 

Our children are our future, so we should throw out all the regulations we have now, and centralise on those that are going to make England a better place, if only we gave them a chance, because our children are leaving school with nothing to go on to, and consequently they’re becoming disappointed and bored which is marring their self respect. 

There’s a large gap between the function apprenticeships should have in our economic system, and how they’re being used in practice.  The bulk of apprentices are being used to train older people, and those who are already employed at their company, rather than taking on young people that are out of work.

There are far too many young people that are not in work, and there should be efforts to alter this, by taking on more young apprentices.  It might be tighter on finances, however, the government keeps harping on about unemployment data, and how we must get more people back into employment, so therefore, they should put their hands in their pockets and come up with a programme, and the plan should be to get more young people back into work by tendering an apprenticeship through companies.

It should not be an option for companies to take on apprentices so that they are able to learn a trade. It should be compulsory that businesses take on apprentices.  The hypothesis is, that more young people would be in employment, and that would give them more self respect, instead of thinking, because they can’t obtain employment, that they are unworthy, which induces more problems than it’s worth.

Parents Are Furious At NHS

The parents of a five year old were enraged after being informed by the NHS that their three stone son was fat, and needed to go to a fat club.  Paul and Sarah Hurry had at all times considered themselves on giving healthy meals for their six children.

So the couple was distressed when it was stated by a nurse that their athletic and energetic son Max, who at 3ft 6in tall, weighs 3st 3lb, was overweight as part of the NHS’ Child Measurement programme.

The family was even summoned to a healthy lifestyle assessment to train them how to feed their children.

Mr Hurry, 47, from Cheshunt, Hertfordshire, stated he didn’t know whether chuckle about it, or feel infuriated after being given a letter which he depicted as political correctness gone mad.  The note from Hertfordshire Community NHS Trust, which was based on the youngster’s BMI reading, which went on to state that Max’s weight could steer onto grave health difficulties such as asthma and diabetes.

It even informed it might make him more susceptible to bullying and having low self respect.  However, Mr Hurry and wife Sarah takes issue with any statements, and that their bouncy young boy was far from unhealthy.

The father of six had challenged the nurse during the initial meeting back in February when she stated to him Max was obese.  Mr Hurry asked the nurse to look at him, and to let him know how his son was fat, and that he was simply not overweight.

The nurse said he is overweight because that was what the chart said, nevertheless, Mr Hurry was in the belief that there was no point reasoning with somebody who simply has no judgement on these things.

However, after sniggering off the fears, they were enraged to be given the letter purporting they should take part in a fat club.

They laughed it off because he was always out playing football, or on his bike, and eats healthily.

Even so, the letter turned up telling them they we were duty-bound to go to a meeting to talk over how they feed their children.  When they first saw it, they weren’t sure whether to be really vexed, or laugh it off as some type of political correctness gone insane.

They’re still undecided about it.

The pair said they take considerable care to make healthy food for their six children, and had not ever been told any of Max’s siblings were fat.  They all consume identical meals, and they all share the same build.

Mr Hurry stated that Max has an older sister, six year old Matilda, who is disabled and as a result will only eat salmon, chicken, vegetables and a bit of potato, so the whole family would eat the same.

Every night the children have fresh salmon, or fresh chicken with some new potatoes and vegetables.  Maybe once a week they’ll have something less nourishing, just to give a little respite, nevertheless, it will still be something like chicken dippers, not a takeaway or rubbish.

It’s all rubbish, all this governmental insanity gone wrong, and this isn’t the first time with all this political madness, there have been other instances.

A hospital has banned visitors from cooing at babies that had just been born. The principle? It could infringe on the infants’ human rights.  What a load of rubbish, next they’ll be saying to you that you can’t breath on them as well.  It is just insulting our intelligence.

A sign on the crib, said: “I deserve to be left undisturbed and protected against unwanted public view.” However, a great deal of new parents stated they were pleased and delighted to show off their newborn child.

Circumventing the point here, a headmistress ruled in June that girls at her Dorset school must be groomed in trousers at all times. It sourced enraged protests from pupils and parents, nevertheless, Marilyn Warden took a firm stand that even knee-length skirts did not adequately protect their modesty.

A council in Cornwall prohibited a Punch and Judy show following women’s rights objectors mounted objection fighting its beastly storyline.  Ladies handed out pamphlets to kids as young as four, tendering without a charge, confidential support to any woman, including bisexual or homosexual women, who’s going through domestic violence.

For generations, children going to school have enjoyed making Mother’s and Father’s Day cards to take home. Yet, the country’s largest guidance service now promotes its pupils to make special person cards instead.

A band of headmasters disobeyed the public surge in school conker prohibitions, and even called off classes to hold conker championships. The long-established pastime has been criminalised in schools across the nation for health and safety purposes.

Following decades of appropriate memorials to our war dead, a shower of paper poppies at a Remembrance Day service was prohibited because they were a fire hazard.

The trouble is that people are currently so cold-eyed and unresponsive that we without question have no accuracy on what is factual and what’s not, and what’s more is that the standards change all the time.

However, this little laddie, he’s just an average and energetic young lad.   However, the letter from Hertfordshire Community NHS Trust states that the results proposed that the child’s weight to height ratios. In line with the age and sex of the child was a worry.

It went onto state that excess weight could lead to dangerous health troubles, and in short this could result in emotional well being, such as bullying, low self-respect, asthma and the progressive arrival of diabetes.

The letter in addition stated that their GP would like to help, and would be contacting them shortly to invite their son and family to go to a Healthy Lifestyle Review.

Mr Hurry is now taking into consideration going along to the healthy review with his family to question the staff about their fat assertions.  As he wants to know which one of his children are overweight, and what needs to alter in their choice of food, because as far as he is concerned not one of his children are fat.

Most kids have a small amount of puppy fat when they’re younger, however, with exercise, and a sound diet, this minuscule amount of puppy fat vanishes over time, however, the importance is not to make it too much of an issue, otherwise we will end up with kids who are obsessed with being overweight, and will end up walking about hungry, and looking anorexic.

What to do if Your Child is Being Bullied

UnknownBullying involves recurring acts of physical, emotional, or social behaviour that are intentional, controlling, and hurtful.  Bullying is a learned behaviour, observable as early as 2 years of age.

Bullying is defined by a power imbalance between the bully and its prey.  A power that can be gained from physical size, strength, verbal skill, popularity, or gender.    

A bully’s target feels tortured, helpless and defenceless, and if you believe that your child is being bullied, you should talk to your child and trust that what they are telling you is true, and not brush it under the rug.

Talk over with your child that being bullied is not their fault, and that they don’t have to face it alone.

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The parent should gather as much information as possible about the situation, and instruct the child to not respond to his/her attackers, but to be assertive and walk away, or get assistance if required.

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Tell your child to report any intimidation straightaway to a trusted adult, and the parent should get in touch with the school, teacher, or counsellor, and always stay calm.  Don’t ever respond to any bullying.

When kids bully each other using the internet, mobile phones, or other cyber technology by sending hateful or venomous text, e-mail, or instant messages, or by posting hateful pictures or messages about others in a chat room, on bulletin boards, on blogs, or on websites, then they should be reported immediately, but don’t ever react to any Cyber bullying, and screen shot and save all correspondence or postings.

If your child is physically attacked, and when we say physically, we mean by force, hitting, or otherwise attacking, then the parent needs to talk to the teachers and the school principal immediately.

The parent should take pictures of any injuries, and they should have their child write down a detailed description of what happened.

The police should be called immediately if there is any physical violation of any type, which includes hitting, kicking, slapping, tripping, and hair-pulling.

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Parents should also talk to a solicitor/Lawyer if the child has been physically assaulted by another student.

In a collective, children and older students do tend to bicker, and some just single others out, some just to show off, and others because of the way that they have been brought up in the home.  

We are not born bullies, we become bully’s because of what we see, and what we’re shown, and so that the emphasis is not on them, but on others.  It’s all about possession, and taking charge of something that they can command because they’re unable to control themselves.

It’s our animal instinct that refers to our behaviour and habits, including body language, elimination habits, hostility, play and communication.  Many common behaviours include hunting and grooming, however, it can change greatly among individuals.  Some might appear to interact with others more easily, while others do not seem to do as well.  In a family with many children, the interactions appear to alter depending on which individuals are present, and how limited the territory and the resources are.

Even so, bullying isn’t acceptable behaviour, and dominance over this should be seen in the home of the parents, nevertheless, this is not always a possibility, particularly if all that the bully is experiencing is hostility inside the home.  Another pattern of bullying is through peer pressure that is influenced in a peer group, when observers or individuals encourage others to change their attitudes, values, or behaviours to adapt to a group.

Peers become a significant influence on behaviour during adolescence, and peer pressure has been called a hallmark of adolescent experience.

Peer conformity in young people is most pronounced with regard to trend, taste, appearance, ideology, and values, and is normally affiliated with instalments of adolescent risk taking, such as willful neglect, drug abuse, sexual behaviours, and reckless driving because these actions commonly happen in the company of peers.

Affiliation with friends who engage in risk behaviours has been shown to be a strong predictor of an adolescent’s own behaviour, however, peer pressure can also have positive effects when youths are forced by their peers towards positive behaviour, such as volunteering for a charity, or surpassing in academics.

While socially accepted kids often have the most opportunities, and the most positive experiences, being in the popular gang may also be a risk element for mild to temperate deviant behaviour.

Popular teenagers are the most socialised into their peer groups, and therefore are more vulnerable to peer pressures, such as behaviours normally set aside for this for more outstanding matureness and reasoning.

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Socially accepted kids are frequently accepted for the sheer fact that they adjust well to the norms of teen culture, with good and bad aspects included, and popular adolescents are more strongly associated with their peer group’s likes such as intoxicants, tobacco and drugs.

Many popular pupils also make lower grades than less socially accepted kids. This is perhaps due to the fact that popular students may spend more time vexing about their social life instead of studying.

We perpetually hear about bullying on a regular basis, and sometimes it becomes so high-risk that you also hear of teenagers taking their own lives because of the brutality that another teenager, or a group of teenagers has put on another person.  

In the playground of adolescence we support bullying as a playground caper, and thus reinforce it, and brush it under the carpet.   However, you can title it what you like, but at the end of the day, it’s still bullying, and a hurdle that we must address.  It’s not a brain-teaser. It’s very real, and we must always question why it happens.

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We are all born with a blank canvas, we are not born with this congenital enthrallment to bully another human being, however, some of us, as we get older search out others to create havoc upon.  So, this must have been learned from somewhere, and it’s essential that once this bullying is brought out into the open by a student, or the parent of that student that it’s nipped in the bud as soon as possible.

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How do we do this, with control, and we need to analyse all aspects of the situation, however, what we can’t do is quash the situation and pretend it’s not happening, when we know that it is.  You can’t conceal bullying because it won’t go away, and whoever it’s happening to can’t fight it off, it’s not as simple as that.

Foremost the student that’s being bullied needs to know that they can approach someone of authority, or their parents without judgement because the student has done nothing amiss, and should not be made to feel that they have.  

It’s one thing the student approaching somebody to confide in, but it’s another thing bringing the bullies forward to acknowledge that they have done something wrong because in their eyes it was all in fun, and they never meant anything by it, when clearly they did, and then the student will go away feeling uplifted that the bully has been chastised for their wrong-doing, but then the student is then bullied once more, but more so because they ratted on the bully or bullies.

With a bully, it’s almost like a line of work, and the prey is the student.  Bullying can also take place in a place of work among adults.  The adult might seem well mannered, but underneath they are really vulgar and ill-mannered, and they will pollute anyone that they can with their gibe like comments. 

the-human-being-328841Nobody has the authorisation to bully another human being because being a human being means that one is worthy of more than that. Everybody deserves to be handled with esteem, and to be stripped of that respect is a let down on the human species.  Given that we should be permitted to air our feelings about other people, but not to the detriment of another persons life, that is taboo.

 

   

JEREMY CLARKSON

Jeremy-ClarksonIt is reported that Jeremy Clarkson has been debarred for allegedly attacking a television producer, and with his catalogue of misdemeanours people are saying it’s time for Clarkson to go.

It’s been reported that Clarkson, and his family business sold golliwogs, and is reportedly really majestic of the fact, and he as well has zero consciousness as to how entirely unsavoury this could be for a great number of people.

However, it appears Jeremy Clarkson has been up to it again, and now he’s allegedly been using the “n” word.

It must be remembered that the BBC fired Carol Thatcher for naming to a tennis player offstage as a “golliwog”. So should Clarkson be sacked as well?

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People hold the right to say and think what they like, but also, there a number of people out there that really love “Top Gear”, and watch it religiously because it is actually a really good programme, and it will be missed by many if it was taken off air for good, and for those that don’t watch the programme it won’t be missed at all, and neither would Jeremy Clarkson.

In recent newspaper reports in October 2009, it demonstrates that he ribbed television bosses for being obsessed with having black Muslim lesbians on shows to balance out the number of white heterosexual men, and these remarks followed on from the Strictly Come Dancing issue over Anton Du Beke calling his partner Laila Rouass a “Paki”.

In November 2008, he made a joke about lorry drivers murdering ladies of pleasure during an instalment of Top Gear. Despite numerous ills to the BBC and Ofcom, and a telephone call from an MP for him to lose his job, he gave the usual mock apology on the following weeks show.

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He has called Minister Gordon Brown a one eyed Scottish idiot, however, only apologised about Mr Brown’s appearance, but he didn’t apologise about calling him a Scottish idiot.

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In July 2010, he made a comment about a woman in a burka wearing a red G-string while talking about unsafe driving conditions on the show. Later that month, Alastair Campbell disclosed on his web log that, in un-aired remarks, Clarkson had snubbed claims that he wasn’t very sound on gay rights by responding “Oh yes I am. I demand the right not to be bummed. ”

In August 2010, Clarkson was comparing two Ferrari’s and depicted the older one as a simpleton that should be called the 430 Speciale needs, instead of its real name 430 Speciale, which incited recoil from the National Autistic Society.

I don’t really think that Jeremy Clarkson affiliated the two categories, cars against Autistic children, and I also don’t believe that he was having a jab at handicapped children in general, it was all to do with the car, and not putting anyone down.

Clarkson can come across as being a ceremonious jackass at times, and just speaks his mind believing that most people want to hear and like what he is saying, however, that is not always the case. He doesn’t seem to point the finger at anyone specific, unless it’s Gordon Brown, which of course he shouldn’t have done, however, everybody is titled to their beliefs, just not on national television, which Clarkson clearly gets his arse beaten.

In April this year, the BBC was pressured to apologise to the Mexican ambassador after Clarkson stigmatised Mexicans, calling them lazy, feckless and flatulent in an episode of Top Gear. Ofcom received 157 complaints about the remarks on the BBC2 show, which the viewing audience sounded off, and said that they were derogatory, cruel, xenophobic, discriminatory and racist.

Once more, he has his opinions, but should at times really keep his views to himself, or perhaps he should look in the mirror more often and see that he is a balding, ugly middle age man, who really should choose a different dentist for his dental work on his gnashers…

And now this week he had made a vile comment about Asian people.

Jeremy has truly got himself into hot water this time, and some people would say that he was completely bonkers. I grant you he is a bit of a crackpot, and passably a fool because now he’s out of a job, however, he is a good host, and he can talk the hind legs off a donkey.

Should we lay him to rest, along with a very good series of Top Gear, or should we just reprimand him, and let him carry on with the show?

Unfortunately, the recent comment about Asians is in contravention of the Equality Act 2010 and lawyers have threatened to take the matter to Ofcom, and are thinking about taking legal action.

Jeremy Clarkson’s behaviour both on and off the Top Gear camera has seen him fall from one argument into the next, before he was eventually canned by the BBC last week for punching a show producer in a run-in over catering arrangements.

And it appears the former master of ceremonies is nothing if not particular about his backstage prerequisites, and what it takes for producers to keep Prima Donna Clarkson. James May and Richard Hammond gratified.

The Mariahs of middle-age, middle-England evidently demanded over 20 bottles of wine, which included Verve Cliquot. Champagne, Cloudy Bay Pinot Noir and Sauvignon Blanc, alongside his favourite Chateau Leoube rose. They also wanted 24 bottles of Peroni, Bombay Sapphire gin with necessary Gin and Tonic making material, and a fridge or cooler cabinet with at least four shelves for the green room of the called off shows, which were set to take place in Norway from 29th March.

Tables in the room, preferably occupied with green plants, must be overlaid in linen, and there must be a couch big enough to tooshie six people. One of whom is 6ft 3in and likes to lie down. It must also include a Sky TV connection, a DVD player, an iPod dock, and a Playstation 3 with two controllers and a copy of Call of Duty.

Feeding Jeremy Clarkson and his companions should include lunch and evening meals, and hot snacks, e.g. Pies, jacket potatoes, pasta and prawn cocktail, alongside jelly babies, minstrels and a cheese board. Healthy options should include chicken Caesar, Nicosia and Greek salads as well as a fruit bowl. Marmite, honey, jam, peanut butter, HP sauce and balsamic vinegar are also compulsory.

The green room must also be a stone’s throw from a McDonald’s.

This ensemble doesn’t come cheap or uninteresting with their cavernous appetites which are unquestionably obscure. Not forgetting that they move around in exotic places, isn’t it self-explanatory that they want to banquet like bizarre male monarchs, and it must be really stimulating as they maneuver their vehicles through rough terrain.

More unusual particulars on the list include a copy of Scrabble and Pictionary, a coat stand, hair wax, nice rubbish bins, and a can of Dove deodorant for men.

All three presenters have their eclectic savour and they certainly know what they want.

Jeremy is really into his rose, and very finical about getting precisely the right type of wine. He also likes to be driven around in a Range Rover during these events.

When I read through all of these things that went on behind the scenes, I abruptly got a vision of Jeremy Clarkson, and thought of Henry the VIII, whilst I began to chuckle behind my desk. I’m not sure which one is more beguiling or more unpalatable, however, Jeremy Clarkson, James May and Richard Hammond are decidedly a little off-the-wall.

Osborne’s Brother Debarred For Two Year Liaison With Vulnerable Woman

UnknownGeorge Osborne’s brother who is a shrink is battling to save his career after it was revealed that he has been suspended as a doctor following grave allegations of wrongful conduct.

Adam Osborne, 38, who has a private practice in Central London, last week had his licence suspended by the General Medical Council after being accused of having a two year sexual affair with an extremely vulnerable woman patient who has psychiatric issues, and is married and has two children.

This news comes five years after he was then debarred by the GMC for dishonest and misleading behaviour in prescribing drugs to his cocaine addicted prostitute lover.

The latest setback signifies that he can’t practice in any capacity as a doctor until an investigation into the fresh allegations has been resolved.

This temporary removal will prove extremely awkward for the Chancellor, as it gets close to Wednesday’s all-important Budget, the final one before May’s General Election.

If the investigation results in a Fitness To Practice hearing, which is held in public, Dr Osborne could face further sensitive personal information being revealed, and if the allegations are upheld, he could be struck off.

Nevertheless, his interim suspension did not constitute an indication of a guilty conscience. However, in the aftermath of the hearing, Dr Osborne’s personal website has been taken down. Yet, his Linkedin page states that he has a special interest in adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, personality disorders, depression and anxiety.

Dr Osborne presently runs Devonport Psychiatry, which is based in Marylebone. Central London, but is officially registered to his home address in Shepherd’s Bush, West London, which he shares with his wife Rahala Noor, a plastic surgeon.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT FIBROMYALGIA

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My pain is not your pain. It’s induced by inflammation, and taking your arthritis medication won’t help me.  I can’t work my pain out or shake it off.  It’s not even a pain that stays put, because today it’s in my shoulder, but tomorrow it may be in my foot or even gone.  My pain is thought to be caused by improper signals sent to the brain, it’s not properly understood, however, it’s real.

I get exhausted, but I am not just tired, I’m frequently in a grave state of exhaustion.  I may want to take part in physical activities, but I can’t.  Please don’t take this personally, just because you saw me at the shopping centre yesterday, doesn’t mean that I can assist you with yard work today, and it isn’t because I don’t want to, it’s because I’m paying the price for straining my muscles beyond their capacity.

I am forgetful, and for those who have it, it’s called Fibro-fog.  I may not recall your name, but I do remember you.  I may not remember what I promised to do for you, even though you told me just seconds ago.  My problem has nothing to do with my age, and I do not have a selective memory.  On some days, I just don’t have any short-term memory at all.

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I’m clumsy, and if I step on your toes or run into you five times in a crowd, I’m not intentionally aiming at you, I do not have the muscle control for that.  If you are behind me on the stairs, just please be patient, these days, I take life and stairwells one step at a time.

I have sensitivities that I just can’t stand.  It could be any number of things from bright sunlight, loud or high-pitched noises, or odours.  FMS has been called the aggravating everything disorder, so don’t make me open the curtains or listen to your child screeching, I really can’t stand it.

I can’t stand the heat either, or humidity.  If I’m a man, I sweat profusely, and if I’m a lady, I perspire, both are every bit as embarrassing, so please don’t feel compelled to point this shortcoming out to me, I already know.  And don’t be surprised if I shiver uncontrollably when it’s cold, I don’t tolerate the cold either.  My internal thermostat is busted, and no one knows how to repair it.

Yes, I get depressed, and there are days when I would rather stay in bed, or in the house or die.  Severe, persistent pain can induce depression, and your sincere care and understanding can pull be back from the threshold of hell, however, your sneering comments can tilt me over the edge.  My body does not handle stress very well, that doesn’t mean that I’m slothful, however, everyday stresses make my symptoms worse, and can incapacitate me altogether.

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I may be fat or I may be skinny, either way, it’s not by choice.  My body is not your body, and my appestat is broken, and no one can tell me how to mend it.

On good days, if you see me smiling and functioning normally, don’t presume that I’m well.  I have continuing pain and fatigue, an illness with no cure.  I can have my good days or weeks or even months, but it’s the good days that are what keeps me going.

People who suffer from FMS are all unique, and are not all alike.  That means I may not have all of the problems listed above, but I do have pain above and below the waist, and on both sides of my body which has lasted for an extremely long time.  I may have migraines or hip pain or shoulder pain or knee pain, however, I don’t have exactly the same pain as everybody else.

This is based on communications with people throughout the world, males and females, who suffer with Fibromyalgia.  It doesn’t represent any one of the over 10,000,000 people with FMS, however, it can help the healthy person realise how devastating this illness can be.  Please don’t take these people and their pain lightly.  You wouldn’t want to spend even a day in their shoes, or their bodies…